Insecure In My First Ever Relationship With Someone I Care About

It is natural and common to feel insecure in your first ever relationship with someone.

Insecure In My First Ever Relationship With Someone I Care AboutThis is your first relationship after all.

You worry about your dearth of experience, and how this affects the relationship going forward.

Being insecure about your first ever relationship shouldn’t be a factor that makes you believe that you are odd or different.

You are going through the same emotions that the majority of us had when we entered our own first ever relationships.

You are going to make mistakes.

Your partner too.

This is how most first ever relationships work.

You are new at this.

There are situations that you go through that you don’t know how to deal with, not having the knowledge that comes with experience in relationships.

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People who are experienced in relationships went through those situations when they had their first ever relationships.

They learned and got better at it.

You haven’t had this time yet.

Keeping that in mind, don’t be afraid when these problems arise and you don’t know what to do about them.

This happens.

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No relationship is going to be perfect all the way through.

Learn through these experiences.

Learn from your mistakes so that you make less of them in the future.

Prepare yourself for the reality that you are bound to make mistakes.

Ditto for your partner.

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Accepting this right now, keeps you from panicking when they do occur.

It is pivotal not to panic.

When you panic, you aren’t thinking rationally.

You are reacting.

By reacting to a relationship problem that arises without thinking it through, you are susceptible to doing something that leads to the end of the relationship.

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Tell yourself right now that you are going to make mistakes in this relationship, and you are prepared to accept and learn from them when they occur.

When they happen, take a deep breath and be calm.

Avoid acting out.

Give it some time.

The more time you give the moment without reacting to it, the easier it is to be clear-headed enough to come up with a solution.

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Something else you have to realize about being insecure in your first relationship ever is that your partner is probably feeling likewise.

They haven’t told you this.

It is likely that they are also insecure about it.

Whose to say this isn’t your partner’s first relationship ever as well?

Either that or your partner hasn’t had that many relationships in the past.

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With this in mind, you don’t have to be the one who solely carries the burden of going through these insecurities.

Don’t be afraid to be open with your feelings to your partner about some of your insecurities.

Your partner has a commonality with you in that.

This is how you bond with each other as you navigate through the undulating waters of your first ever relationship.

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