Whenever you are dating this current person, you are thinking about the guy from your past.

This originates from the strong feelings for this guy.

After all, you liked him for a long time and can’t seem to forget him.

This guy is in your thoughts constantly during the day or week.

You catch up on what he is doing through watching his posts on social media from time to time or asking mutual friends about what he is up to.

This guy is your first choice.

Whether you dated this guy or not, you have never gotten over him.

Alas, life happened.

You moved on and have since been dating a different guy.

Listen, if you have feelings for this guy and think about him a lot more than you think about the guy you are currently dating, you have to end the relationship.

It is unfair to you and him in continuing to date when you know that you would much rather be with someone else and you can’t stop thinking about this person.

This is common.

Sometimes, people date someone new to aid them in forgetting someone from their past that they haven’t gotten over.

This new person is their second choice.

This means that they weren’t sincere in their intentions.

They didn’t start dating this new person out of an intention to have a future with them, due to caring about the person and having a unique connection.

Instead, it was based on finding a replacement.

Unfortunately, dating someone else based on this thinking rarely turns out well.

This person is second best.

They can’t conceivably match up with the guy you really want.

You compare this person with the guy you really want, making it next to impossible to have this person be who they truly are and be judged on that.

This makes it that much more difficult to please you or impress you, as there is clearly someone better from your past.

That person is the guy that you liked and for some reason never got to date or never got anywhere with while dating.

When you are constantly thinking about this guy, wondering about who he is currently dating or having an intense desire to be with him, you are no longer emotionally present in your current relationship.

It is already doomed.

Be frank with yourself and with him.

This is mutually beneficial in the long run.

He gets to move on to someone else who is fully emotionally available to him, and you get to assess yourself emotionally, giving yourself extra time to heal from the emotional turmoil you continue to endure with the guy from your past.