A guy who is texting you a lot but not asking you for a second date is keeping you as a dating option, but isn’t prepared to commit to that second date.
This is a guy who isn’t that interested in a second date.
The first date was decent enough and relatively enjoyable, but he didn’t get what he needed out of it.
He enjoyed parts of the first date but not others.
As a result, he realizes that there are some things about you that he likes, but at the same time, he didn’t feel that much chemistry with you.
This is why he continues texting you without asking you for a second date.
He wanted that giant spark and he probably didn’t get it.
He likes you enough to keep you as a possible dating option in the future but he doesn’t want to commit to anything at this time.
He has various girls he is trying to date at this time.
He wants to gauge how those dates go with how the date he had with you went.
He keeps you open as a future option, knowing it’s possible he comes full circle and dates you again, should these girls not work out.
This is one scenario.
In an alternate scenario, this guy believes that asking you out for a second date would be acting too desperate or eager.
He believes you would get the wrong impression of him were he to ask you out again too soon.
He wants to ensure that you aren’t turned off by a guy who wants to see you again too soon.
As a result, he continues to text you but he doesn’t ask for a second date.
He is playing it as cool as possible, hoping for the right moment to come up in the future where he sees an opening to ask for that second date.
The two scenarios I have given you can be gauged.
To understand whether this guy is merely keeping you as another option, observe how he acts with other girls.
A guy who flirts a lot with multiple girls is most likely dating some of them, which means he is keeping you as an option.
To gauge whether he is trying to play it cool and not come off as too desperate, observe the kind of texts he sends you.
It’s about you and what makes you happy.
The texts primarily focus on you as opposed to him.
He is doing this in order to learn more about you so that he can figure out what you tend to expect out of guys.
He texts you with questions about your previous relationships, wanting to learn more.
He doesn’t want to ask for a second date too soon, using your previous relationships as a guide.
He is playing it safe in acting this way, worried about getting turned down were he to ask you on a second date before building the right amount of rapport with you.
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