Don’t let the planning of a second date kiss come into your mind prematurely and make you obsessed.

Thinking about having a second date kiss, runs the risk of messing up whatever momentum you have built up together thus far.

Your point of focus is misguided and this creates a problem.

A problem that is encapsulated in you thinking more so about the kiss than the actual date.

You are so stuck on having this second date kiss that you miss out on cues that she is sending you during the second date.

She gives you the cues that tell you that this is the right time to go for the kiss or this is the wrong time to go for it.

You miss out on them, concerned about making this second date kiss happen at the time of your choosing.

This could also make you very anxious during the second date.

You aren’t paying that much attention.

She is telling you about something and you are barely listening, your mind consumed with thinking about when the right time would be to have the second date kiss.

Again, you are missing all the cues that she is sending you.

It becomes all about doing this second date kiss at a planned time that you have set in your head.

You have told yourself that you shall plant the kiss at the end of the date or at some point in particular during the date.

You have consciously set this as the time that you are going to go for it.

You do this irrespective of the fact that the best time to give her the second date kiss came about during a slight break in conversation that you just had.

She was giving you that look that was literally inviting you to come in for the kiss but you didn’t do it.

You didn’t do it, having already preplanned when you are going for it.

You have missed out on the opportunity.

If you were now to go for the kiss at a time you planned out in your mind, the timing is your worst enemy.

Even though she wanted a kiss earlier, she feels awkward about getting it at this moment of your choosing.

It feels forced to her.

The kiss suffers as a result.

A bad kiss has the potential to ruin everything.

She was all into you, but now, she isn’t, thanks to a kiss that didn’t work.

Bad timing resulted in a bad kiss and now she isn’t so sure about you.

Perhaps she will give you another chance on a third date, perhaps she won’t.

One thing is for certain.

She isn’t impressed.

This is why you should just let the kiss happen when it feels right.

Avoid allowing yourself to think about it and plan when it should happen.

Indeed, it could happen on the second date.

The third or fourth.

You can’t determine when, being that it should happen naturally, within the flow of the date.