In this case, not breaking up with you continues to give him the benefits of having a girlfriend, even though he is unsure of what to do with the relationship at this stage.
At times, his relationship with you is weighed down by its problematic issues.
In moments where he feels the severity of this weight, he is giving you the cold shoulder.
He is showing that he prefers doing something on his own at the time, as he wants to be away from you.
He would rather go hang out with his friends, play a video game, fix his truck, go camping, etc.
Doing something for himself, around other people that he enjoys, gives him an escape.
To have you around, leaves him constantly worried about the issue at hand, and he doesn’t want to have to constantly deal with these thoughts.
He likes the sense of freedom that it gives him when he gives you the cold shoulder so that he doesn’t have to wrestle with those thoughts.
He knows that it allows him to forget that he has personal issues with you or that he is lukewarm in his feelings for you.
Amid all of this, he believes you continue to have value, which is why he doesn’t break up with you.
He doesn’t want to entirely let go of something that does give him a degree of pleasure or happiness from time to time.
He realizes that to break up with you is to put himself in a position where he remains doubtful and regretful of his decision.
He doesn’t want to put himself in that position unnecessarily, as he has already invested quite a bit of time and emotion on his relationship with you.
It isn’t prudent to throw all of that away at this time.
You are someone that he did put out an effort to court and date after all.
He remains doubtful about where he wants the relationship to go though.
This doubt keeps him unsure of what to do.
He appreciates certain moments that he has with you, thanks to certain qualities you have, but he knows that he can’t be around you too often.
He is essentially stuck somewhere in the middle.
Thereby, he chooses not to break up with you but continues giving you the cold shoulder.
Keep in mind, there are scenarios where the guy is intent on breaking up with you but hasn’t being that he is yet to find a replacement.
This is especially true when the moments that he gives you the cold shoulder are prolonged and he isn’t trying in any way to let you know what is bothering him in the relationship.
In a context where he isn’t trying to fix his issues with you and merely gives you the cold shoulder, he is looking for someone else.
He doesn’t want to break up with you until he has found that person who takes your place, so that he avoids being left without a partner.
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