To date a shy and socially awkward girl, you are going to have to be accepting of her.
In other words, if you have a problem with the fact that she is shy and socially awkward, you should avoid getting involved with her.
This is the person she is. She is who she is.
You may really want her to be something that she isn’t.
If that is the case, don’t bother.
You can’t come in with some set expectations.
If you were to start dating her as a shy and awkward girl that you have reservations about, you wouldn’t be fully accepting her.
Being shy and socially awkward is part of her persona. To date her only to want to change her is not a healthy way to enter a relationship.
Now, if she is shy and awkward but you like her and you are wondering how to go about approaching her, try using something that she can relate to.
If you know that she tends to talk about a particular topic to her friends, learn more about that topic and talk to her about it the next time you see her.
If she takes a particular class or has a particular job, you can ask her about that too. Find a way to relate by telling her about a similar class that you have taken or job that you have done.
Be truthful though. Don’t try to relate by telling lies. She will only find out later on and this would make you look bad.
When you are able to relate to her and talk to her about topics she is familiar with, she will be able to talk more freely. She would know what to say because you are talking about something she is familiar with.
This way, the conversation doesn’t seem forced.
She will be able to speak naturally and extemporaneously.
Another effective way to date a shy, socially awkward girl is to try being her friend.
Shy girls tend to enjoy being around someone that they are familiar with and is easy to talk to. This enables them to feel more comfortable communicating with them and opening up to them.
If you become her friend, she will be able to start letting her guard down. To do this effectively, you would have to be helpful to her and communicate with her on a regular basis.
However, you should make sure that you still flirt with her. Tell her how she makes you feel and give her compliments. This really helps in making her see that you are not just another platonic friend but someone who actually has romantic interest in her.
This is how you can begin to get her to not only see you as a friend but also as a possible date.
Another very effective thing you can do is to encourage her to get around people with similar interests as she does. If you discover that she loves painting, you can find other like-minded people and tell her about them.
This could help her build trust with you because she is grateful that you are looking out for her.
This means that she may initiate conversation with you from time to time because you are winning her trust and respect.
The more she initiates conversation with you, the more comfortable she will become around you.
At a certain point, she may even start bringing up details about conversations that you have both had in the past.
This is when you would have a good indication that she may be thinking about you when she is not around you.
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