You should say “I love you” when it feels right.
However, you should be careful to give it time before you do so.
You may feel like you love this person right now but this can easily get you carried away.
This would be ill-advised.
If it has only been a few weeks or a couple months since you started dating this person, you are still in the honeymoon phase of the relationship.
At this stage, your dopamine levels are very high.
Dopamine is a neurotransmitter in the brain that causes pleasure and euphoria.
This kind of feeling may be misguiding.
In your mind, you will start filling in the blanks about the person you are dating.
You haven’t had enough time to get to know them properly, so you make things up. You simply fill it in with what you want.
You create the perfect person.
The truth is, you don’t know how perfect this person truly is. You haven’t given this relationship the time to develop in order for you to see that.
You need to see him at both his best and his worst.
Have you thought about what his true behavior may be?
Do you know about his past relationships?
Do you know if he has anger issues?
Do you know his level of tolerance?
Do you know if he has true patience?
Do you know if he is still in love with an ex?
Do you know if he is driven?
There are so many things that need to be discovered. You couldn’t possibly know all of this until you have given this some time.
Even though you may feel like you truly know him today, there is no telling who will be revealed to you tomorrow.
Oftentimes people will bring their best selves to a date. They will show you the side that they want you to see.
That side may be the most appealing part of them or may be entirely fabricated.
By giving it more time before saying “I love you,” you would be able to tell if this person has been real or fake.
This is because a person tends to inadvertently show their true self with time.
If they have been giving you an act, at some point, they will make a mistake and the real person will come out.
This is inevitable.
This is why you would need more time to know for certain who and what you are dealing with.
You also need more time to come to terms with your feelings and what you truly want. You may feel really good right now but this may not necessarily be the best thing for you.
You may discover that you are wanting to say “I love you” so badly because you are simply craving love at this time or you are trying to make up for something that happened in a previous relationship that may have affected you in a negative way.
Hence, being patient and giving it time before saying “I love you” actually bodes well for the both of you.
Giving this at least six months before saying “I love you” will give you the time to know more about this person and the true character that you are dealing with. It will also give you more time to understand what your true motivations are.
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