If he isn’t attracted to you anymore, this is how he feels and you should accept that. Attraction isn’t something that is always guaranteed to be there.
There are lots of people who become attracted to someone and later lose that sense of attraction.
A lot of it has to do with where there mind was at the moment. At that moment of attraction, there was something that caught their attention.
It could have been a distinct physical feature that the person had or even a particular mannerism.
Once they have had some time away from this moment, that initial reason for their attraction can wane. Once it starts waning, they don’t feel as strongly as they did about the person initially. They have had the time to be away from that experience and the attraction hasn’t lasted.
This does happen quite often.
It doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you. He may have been initially attracted to something about you. It may have been your eyes or a certain facet of your persona. That may have been what grabbed his attention initially.
You still have these elements today.
However, he may not be as drawn to them as he once was. This had nothing to do with you.
After all, you still have the same eyes and persona.
His initial attraction was just that. Initial. There was no real bearing behind it.
It wasn’t the kind of attraction that would carry on into a getting-to-know-you stage. If it did get this far, that attraction wasn’t strong enough to sustain it through this stage.
This is where you have to realize that attraction is not always going to bring chemistry. Two people may find each other attractive but may go no further than a few dates because there was no chemistry to push it along further as the attraction began to wane.
A lack of chemistry is no one’s fault. It is either there or it isn’t.
Sometimes it will take a few dates to know if there is any chemistry. Other times, people can tell from the very first date.
Again, attraction is one of those things that can be there and gone relatively rapidly. It doesn’t mean that your physical appeal has changed in any way.
It just means that the other person’s attraction to you faded for their own reasons.
It may have been that they lost that initial sense of excitement upon seeing you or it may mean that there wasn’t any chemistry there to keep that attraction alive.
Hence, it is important to be accepting of this and avoid judging yourself. People will often judge themselves harshly when they feel like someone no longer finds them attractive.
Understand that this often has more to do with this other person than it does with you.
You may have felt like there was chemistry, but dating is a two way street. The other party has to feel the same way too.
You shouldn’t blame yourself for this.
Simply understand that this does happen and allow yourself to move on.
When you are able to genuinely accept this, you will be able to also understand your value and know that there will always be someone out there who will value your uniqueness.
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