If your heart is no longer in it, it just isn’t.
Now, you may have tried.
Indeed, you may have had discussions with this person and tried to work things out.
However, you just feel like this isn’t going anywhere.
You feel like the kind of effort being put out is taking too much out of you. You may not want to continue trying. It may feel like a chore.
When you are going through these emotions, you are no longer truly invested in the relationship. When you realize that you would rather be doing your own thing than hanging out or talking to this person, it may be time to call it quits.
Sometimes as human beings, we try to deny how we truly feel. We start forcing ourselves to feel a certain way.
However, in the back of our minds, we know that this isn’t working the way it should. It is taking too much effort to feel what is supposed to be felt naturally.
When you experience this, you are no longer fully invested in this relationship emotionally.
It shouldn’t be hard for you to feel the way you should.
It shouldn’t be hard for you to feel good.
Feeling good is a big part of what comes with being with someone. You can’t really force that feeling.
That feeling should be naturally there. If you are not feeling it, you may need to call it quits.
Prolonging the issue will only lead to more self-doubt and stress.
Again, sometimes as human beings we hold on to the hopeless. We tell ourselves that we are feeling a certain way when in fact we aren’t. We convince ourselves to stay with it even when it gets that much harder to put out the effort to do so.
Every attempt at making things work feels like you are attempting to climb Mount Everest. It just feels like an uphill battle and your legs are about to fail you.
It can be very difficult to come to terms with our true feelings. It may require courage and honesty that we simply aren’t willing to conjure.
However, it is for the better of both parties if you were to call it quits and move on. This allows you both to move on with your lives.
However, you may be tempted to stay because the other person tells you to.
They tell you that this can be worked out.
They tell you that everything will get better in time. They tell you that this is only a slight bump in the road. They tell you that the love you both share will conquer all.
They tell you that if you were to leave, you may live to regret it.
All of this may make you doubt yourself and what you should rightfully do. You may strongly consider not calling it quits and give this thing another shot.
Unfortunately, people who fall into this scenario simply end up making the same mistake over and over.
The relationship doesn’t improve because your heart is no longer in it no matter what you have been told.
Be true to yourself.
If this relationship just feels like an uphill battle that you have no more desire to climb, call it quits and move on.
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