You only get to be boring, dull, or are in lack of something to a person when you aren’t romantically compatible.

Accept and love who you are without apology.

Your notion that you are boring, dull, and lacking in something has much more to do with who you are choosing to go out on dates with than anything else.

What activities do you enjoy doing?

Listen, it doesn’t matter what you love doing, there is someone who loves exactly what you love and is compatible with you.

The issue you are having is that you keep dating people who don’t share the same interests as you do.

Rather than seeking someone whose interests match with your own, you adapt to your date’s interests, even though you have little to no interest in said interests.

Unfortunately, your date isn’t fooled for long.

Soon enough they know that you are forcing yourself to do activities they love.

You acted like you loved watching movies when the truth is, you much rather read.

Yeah, your date saw you yawn several times while the movie was playing.

You acted like you loved going to rock concerts, when the truth is, you much rather go to country music concerts.

You acted like you loved theme parks, when the truth is, you much rather go to a farmer’s market.

You acted like you loved listening to your date talk about how many views they received on their latest social media post about social justice, when you much rather talk about the trappings of social media and how it has robbed people of face to face socializing.

Here is the thing, it is not that you are boring, have a dull personality or lack something, it’s that you are dating people you are appeasing, hoping that by doing activities they enjoy they accept you.

Don’t do this.

The person you are dating knows skiing isn’t your thing when they catch you staring at the lodge over and over again, hoping you were there rather than out in the snow.

They know that camping isn’t your thing when you wince at the mere mention of having to grapple with bugs at night.

This isn’t who you are.

Don’t date with the objective of fitting yourself into what your date is passionate about.

Date with the intention of matching with someone who shares the same passions you have.

It doesn’t matter how boring or dull you believe your passions are, there is someone out there who shares the same passions and is compatible with you.

Dating isn’t about fitting a square peg into a round hole, it’s about finding your match.

It doesn’t matter how boring you think reading is, there is someone out there who loves reading as much as you do.

It doesn’t matter how dull you think it is to go to country music concerts, there is someone out there who loves going to country music concerts.

It doesn’t matter how lacking you think talking about the trappings of social media is, there is someone out there who believes that social media has done more harm than good when it comes to face to face socializing.

In a world with billions of people, there is someone out there who is compatible with you, no matter how boring, dull or lacking you think you are.

Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t.

Doing this leaves you stuck in an endless cycle of incompatible dates.

Rather, own who you are and what you believe.

Dating isn’t about being acceptable to everyone.

It’s about finding the right one for you.

Stick to this philosophy and meeting a compatible match that fits your personality is imminent.